Ines Lopez

Experiencing any situation that makes you feel unsafe is very tough. Perhaps one of the hardest things that any human being has to overcome. When it happens at a young age it is even harder to deal with. Your mind, in its efforts for trying to protect you from anything similar happening again, may have created all sorts of patterns and behaviours. A very common one is the idea of being invisible. That way no one will see you, pay attention to you and you won’t be bothered again. This can take many different approaches: the clothes you wear, how you speak about yourself, how you relate to other people trying to be unnoticed. 

Effectively you may have built a wall and a clock of invisibility to stop people from noticing you. 

I know this can happen because I did it! Of all the aspects related to safety, invisibility has been one of the hardest to shake off for me.

Loneliness gets comfortable, predictable and safe, even more so if you are an introvert. The trick is being honest with yourself and seeing where is the invisibility coming from. Is it coming from a place of needing to recharge batteries, having space to create or perhaps relax? Or is it coming from fear of what would happen if others see you? The magic is in the balance between honouring yourself and how you want to be visible while allowing yourself to be visible. 

To shine your light, however you want. Not letting the past define the intensity of your light. That would be a disservice to your gifts and yourself. If you are here in this world there is something you can contribute towards it. It can be in many ways: a kind word to a stranger that lifts them, something you create with your unique view of the world, etc. Don’t let that invisibility win.

If you want to see more patterns that may be in your life and are related to your feeling of safety and discover tools to cultivate more safety within you, you can buy the book Journey to Safety here.